World Introvert Day Jan 2nd 2024 👆🏼

As humans, we were all raised to become social – a part of a community, meaning, most of us may also have been raised to put other people’s needs before our own. In our childhood, the story of the rainbow fish, and the giving tree, had been read to us over and over that we have actually become them at some point in our lives. And if we’re all going, to be honest, we have hit rock bottom countless times because we got drained out of energy, life, and resources, amongst other things.


Maybe at some point in this rock bottom, you had experienced being called selfish, or that you were greedy, just because you were unable to help. If you are currently in this position, the best thing you can do is take a breather and have at least a day off from other people.


I know, you’re probably thinking that it’s only going to make the situation worse. It’s not. Because as soon as you’ve recovered from all this stress that’s been building up due to your selflessness, you’ll be able to help other people better. Here are a few reasons why a day off for self-care is necessary:


1. You are also important

As other people may be important to you, you should also remember that you are important to other people, too. Remind yourself that you are also a son/daughter, a brother/sister, a friend, a partner/spouse and you need just as much care as anybody else, and that these people who surround you, also want you to be well and happy. Look at it like this: if everyone keeps putting others needs before their own, no one would truly get what they deserve, as we are the only ones who fully understand what we ourselves really need.


2. Self-care boosts morale

If your everyday schedule consists of doing favors for other people, you’ll end up being overworked and overwhelmed, and feeling stressed. Remind yourself that it’s okay to say no when the things being asked of you is unnecessary and non-beneficial to your life. 


Pushing yourself to do things for other people, and denying yourself rest, is the fastest way to feeling drained and unhappy.


Take time off, doing things you love, to give yourself some time to relax. This will bring back the balance in your brain chemistry and lift your spirits.

3. Alone time is beneficial to your well being

Alone time doesn’t necessarily need to mean not doing anything. You can use this time to meditate or look at your life from a different angle, as an outsider or observer. See if you’re making good choices for yourself. Imagine yourself as a friend, giving advice to another friend: what tips would you have given in certain aspects of the current events in your life? How would it be beneficial?


And if there are things you can’t seem to cope with well, you keep this serenity prayer in mind, by Niebuhr, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage, to change the things that I can, and wisdom, to know the difference.”


4. Resting is crucial for your overall health

When you give yourself time to rest, you offer your body time to regenerate and stay healthy. You give your body time to regenerate the good hormones that also make your mental health, proper and balanced. So remember that it’s okay to say no sometimes, and especially if you need rest.


Self-care is not selfish. Self-care actually keeps your life balanced and allows you to do more things for both yourself and other people. We can only give as much as we have, and the best way to keep giving is to make sure, we also have enough for ourselves.